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December 11, 2020

What is the definition of stalking in Missouri?

For the purpose of getting a protective order, stalking is defined as when any person purposely and more than once behaves in a way that:

  • serves no legitimate purpose; and
  • causes you to reasonably fear that you are in danger of being physically harmed.1

The acts that a stalker could do may include, but are not limited to, following you or making unwanted communication or unwanted contact with you.1

1 MO ST § 455.010(14)

What is the legal definition of sexual assault?

For the purpose of getting a protective order, sexual assault is defined as when someone causes you or attempts to cause you to engage involuntarily in any sexual act by force, threat of force, duress (coercion/pressure), or without your consent.1

1 MO ST § 455.010(13),(1)(e)

What protections can I get in an order of protection due to stalking or sexual assault?

An ex parte order of protection can do the following:

  • Forbid the abuser from abusing, threatening to abuse, molesting, sexually assaulting, or stalking you or disturbing your peace;
  • Forbid the abuser from entering your home when it is:
    • Jointly owned, leased or rented or jointly occupied by you and the abuser; or
    • Owned, leased, rented or occupied by you individually; or
    • Jointly owned, leased or rented by you and someone else (not the abuser); or
    • Jointly occupied by you and someone else (not the abuser) as long as the abuser does not have a property interest in the home;
  • Forbid the abuser from communicating with you in any manner or through any medium (i.e., phone, computer, etc.);
  • Make a temporary order of custody of your minor children where appropriate;1 and/or
  • Include such other terms as the judge reasonably believes are necessary to ensure your safety.2

A full order of protection can:

  • Include all of the terms listed above AND
  • Additionally, after a hearing, a full order of protection can order any of the following as long as your petition has facts/allegations relating to these topics and your petition must specifically ask for the things below that you want:3
    • Award custody of any minor child born to or adopted by the parties when:
      • the court has jurisdiction (power) over such child; and
      • no prior order regarding custody is pending or has been made; and
      • the best interests of the child require that a custody order be issued;
    • Establish a visitation schedule that is in the best interests of the child;
    • Give you child support;
    • Give you spousal support (maintenance) for up to 180 days if you are legally married;4
    • If you are married to or have children together, the judge can order the abuser to make rent or mortgage payments on the home you are living in OR on a different home (rather than the one you lived in with the abuser) if you choose;
    • Give you temporary possession of personal property, such as cars, checkbooks, keys, and other personal items;
    • Prohibit the abuser from transferring, selling or getting rid of property mutually owned or leased by you and the abuser;
    • Order the abuser to participate in batterers’ counseling or drug treatment;
    • Order the abuser to pay a reasonable fee for housing and other services that are/were provided to you by a domestic violence shelter;
    • Order the abuser to pay court costs;
    • Order the abuser to pay the cost of medical treatment and services that are/were provided to you as a result of injuries due to domestic violence committed by the abuser;5 and/or
    • Order the abuser to pay your attorney’s fees.6

1 MO ST § 455.045
2 MO ST § 455.050(1)
3 MO ST § 455.050(4)
4 MO ST § 455.050(8)
5 MO ST § 455.050(3)
6 MO ST § 455.075

What types of orders of protection due to stalking or sexual assault are there? How long do they last?

There are two types of orders:

1) Ex parte orders of protection - Ex parte is Latin for “from one side.”  A judge can grant you an ex parte order if you prove there is “good cause” to do so.  “Good cause” can be when the judge believes there is an immediate and present danger of stalking or sexual assault to you.1  A judge may grant you the order based solely on your petition and testimony, without holding a hearing.  Ex parte orders may be granted without the abuser’s prior knowledge and without his/her presence in court.

An ex parte order generally will be valid until your court hearing for a full order of protection, which usually takes place within 15 days.2

If you ask for an ex parte order but the judge doesn’t give you one, you may get a “Notice of Hearing” instead.  Although this is not an order protecting you, it does mean you have a date and time for a hearing, where the judge will decide whether or not to grant you a full order of protection. To get a full order of protection, you will need to prove your allegations of stalking or sexual assault to the judge. 

Note: If you desire, you can receive a notification when the ex parte order is served on the abuser.3  Ask the clerk for information on how to get this notification.

2) Full orders of protection - A full order of protection can be issued only after a court hearing in which you and the abuser both have a chance to tell your sides of the story.  If you prove to the judge that you were the victim of stalking or sexual assault, you can get an order of protection that will last for a period of time between 180 days and one year.2  Full orders may be extended for a longer period of time.  For more information, see How do I extend, change or dismiss an order of protection? in our Orders of Protection due to Domestic Violence section.

1 MO ST §455.035(1)
2 See MO ST § 455.040(1)
3 MO ST §455.038

If the abuser lives in a different state, can I still get an order against him/her?

When you and the abuser live in different states, the judge may not have “personal jurisdiction” (power) over an out-of-state abuser. This means that the court may not be able to grant an order against him/her.

There are a few ways that a court can have personal jurisdiction over an out-of-state abuser:

  1. The abuser has a substantial connection to your state. Perhaps the abuser regularly travels to your state to visit you, for business, to see extended family, or the abuser lived in your state and recently fled.
  2. One of the acts of abuse “happened” in your state. Perhaps the abuser sends you threatening texts or harassing phone calls from another state but you read the messages or answer the calls while you are in your state. The judge could decide that the abuse “happened” to you while you were in your state. It may also be possible that the abuser was in your state when s/he abused you s/he but has since left the state.
  3. If you file your petition and the abuser gets served with the court petition while s/he is in your state, this is another way for the court to get jurisdiction.

However, even if none of the above apply to your situation, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t get an order. If you file, you may be granted an order on consent or the judge may find other circumstances that allow the order to be granted.

You can read more about personal jurisdiction in our Court System Basics - Personal Jurisdiction section.

Note: If the judge in your state refuses to issue an order, you can file for an order in the courthouse in the state where the abuser lives. However, remember that you will likely need to file the petition in person and attend various court dates, which could be difficult if the abuser’s state is far away.