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Legal Information: Missouri

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Updated: 
November 14, 2019

Can the abuser have a gun?

Once you get a protection order, there may be laws that prohibit the respondent from having a gun in his/her possession.  There are a few places where you can find this information:

  • first, read the questions on this page to see if judges in Missouri have to power to remove guns as part of a temporary or final order;
  • second, go to our State Gun Laws section to read about your state’s specific gun-related laws; and
  • third you can read our Federal Gun Laws section to understand the federal laws that apply to all states.

You can read more about keeping an abuser from accessing guns on the National Domestic Violence and Firearms Resource Center’s website

What should I do when I leave the courthouse?

Here are some possible ideas of things you may want to do when preparing to leave the courthouse.  Not all will apply to everyone.  Please consider which ones you think may help you.  

  • Review the order before you leave the courthouse. If something is wrong or missing, ask the clerk how to correct the order before you leave.
  • Make several copies of the order as soon as possible.
  • Keep a copy of the order with you at all times.
  • Leave copies of the order at your workplace, at your home, at the children’s school or daycare, in your car, with a sympathetic neighbor, and so on.
  • Give a copy to the security guard or person at the front desk where you live and/or work along with a picture of the abuser.
  • Give a copy of the order to anyone who is named in, and protected by, the order.
  • If the court has not given you an extra copy for your local law enforcement agency, you may want to take one of your extra copies and deliver it to them.
  • You may wish to consider changing your locks and your phone number.

Ongoing safety planning is important after receiving the order. People can do a number of things to increase their safety during violent incidents, when preparing to leave an abusive relationship, and when they are at home, work, and school.  Many batterers obey orders for protection, but some do not.  It is important to build on the things you have already been doing to keep yourself safe.  For more information please visit the Safety Tips page.  Advocates at local domestic violence programs can assist you in designing a safety plan and can provide other forms of support.

What can I do if the abuser violates the order?

You can call the police or sheriff to report the violation, even if you think it is a minor violation.  When a law enforcement officer believes that the abuser has committed an act of domestic violence, sexual assault or stalking in violation of an order of protection, the officer is supposed to arrest the abuser even if the officer didn’t witness the incident.1  Also, if you get awarded custody of your children as part of your order of protection, and the abuser does not return the children to you, the police are supposed to arrest the abuser and give you your children.2

If the abuser violates any of the following terms of an ex parte or full order of protection, it can be a class A misdemeanor (or, if the abuser has previously pleaded/been found guilty of a prior violation within the past 5 years, it can be a class D felony): 

  • s/he commits domestic violence, sexual assault or stalking;
  • s/he violates a term regarding child custody;
  • s/he initiates communication with you;
  • s/he enters your home, place of employment or school; or
  • s/he comes within a certain distance of you or your child.3

It is generally a good idea to write down the name of the responding officer(s) and their badge numbers in case you want to follow up on your case.  Note: You do not need a certified copy of your order to show to the police; any copy of the order is enough.4

Another option you may have is to file a motion for civil contempt and/or for criminal contempt in court. This can be difficult to do on your own, so it may be a good idea to try to get a lawyer to help you if you can. Some courts have fill-in-the-blank motions, which you can use if you do not have an attorney.  Although there is a filing fee for these motions, it can be waived if you fill out another form (called a motion to file in forma pauperis) explaining why you can’t pay.

A motion for civil contempt generally applies when the abuser has not violated the order of protection – not by abusing you, but rather s/he has not followed one of the other parts of the order (which generally are not enforced by the police).  For example, s/he didn’t pay the child support that s/he was ordered to pay.  The abuser will be served with the motion and have a chance to appear in court at a hearing.  In the hearing, you will present your evidence saying how the abuser violated the order and s/he will get a chance to respond.  If the judge finds that s/he did violate the order, s/he can be held in contempt and punished until s/he follows the order.

A person may file a motion for criminal contempt in cases where the abuser is criminally violating the order of protection, by continuing to abuse you, for example. The process is generally the same as for the motion for civil contempt however it may be more complicated to do on your own.  For legal help, go to our MO Finding a Lawyer page.

1 MO ST § 455.085(2)
2 MO ST § 455.085(5)
3 MO ST § 455.085(7),(8)
4 MO ST § 455.083

How do I extend, change or dismiss an order of protection?

Extending an order
Your full order of protection can include a term that allows it to automatically renew unless the abuser files an objection/requests a hearing within thirty days before the expiration of the order. If the abuser does file an objection/request a hearing, you are supposed to be personally served with these papers at least 3 days before the hearing date.1

If your order does not allow for an automatic renewal, you can file a motion to renew your order. After holding a hearing, the judge can renew it for between 180 days and 1 year. There does not have to be a new incident of domestic violence, sexual assault or stalking to renew your order.2 In order to avoid any lapse in your protection, it is usually a good idea to file for your extension at least two weeks before your first order of protection expires. In the event that your first full order expires before you are able to schedule a hearing on extending it, the court may grant you an ex parte order to protect you until your next hearing.2

Changing an order
To modify (change) an order, either party can file a motion (legal papers) to modify the order. You would have to include an affidavit (sworn statement) that explains that there has been a change in circumstances that calls for the modification you are requesting. The judge would hold a hearing to decide whether or not to grant the modification.3

Dismissing an order
If you want to dismiss/terminate your order, you can file a motion to dismiss. The judge has the option to hold a hearing where s/he can question you or others to to decide whether or not to you are voluntarily asking to dismiss it (i.e., that you are not being pressured into it by the abuser).4

1 MO ST § 455.040(4)
2 MO ST § 455.040(1)
3 MO ST § 455.060(1)
4 MO ST § 455.060(5)

What happens if I move?

Your order of protection is valid everywhere in the state.  Additionally, federal law provides what is called “full faith and credit,” which means that once you have a criminal or civil protection order, it follows you wherever you go, including U.S. Territories and tribal lands.  Different states have different rules for enforcing out-of-state protection orders.  You can find out about your state’s policies by contacting a domestic violence program, the clerk of courts, or the prosecutor in your area.  You may also call the National Center on Full Faith and Credit and Protection Orders (1-800-903-0111) for information on enforcing your order out of state.  We have general information about enforcing your order in another state on our Moving to Another State with an Order of Protection page. 

You may want to call the clerk’s office at the court where you originally received the order to tell them your new address so that they can contact you if necessary.  This may be especially important if your order allows for an automatic renewal so that you can receive the notice of the hearing date if the abuser files an objection/ request for a hearing to the order being automatically renewed.

Missouri has a process for registering orders issued by another state, tribe, territory, or possession of the U.S.  You can register your order in MO although it is not required - a certified foreign order of protection can still be enforced in MO.   To register an order, you must file a certified copy of the foreign order and an affidavit or sworn statement that the copy is a true and accurate copy and has not been altered by the circuit court having jurisdiction. You must notify the court if the order terminates prior to the date on the order. There is no fee for filing the order.1

1 MO ST § 455.067(2)-(4)