After considering the best interest of the child, the judge can order any of the following custody arrangements or a combination thereof:

1. joint physical custody, where each parent has regular and continuing contact with the child and a significant period of time when the child is in his/her care;¹
2. joint legal custody, where both parents share decision-making rights and responsibilities regarding the health, education, and welfare of the child; Note: A joint legal custody order also requires that you and the other parent consult before making decisions regarding the health, education, and welfare of the child;²
3. joint physical and legal custody, where parents share both the care of the child as well as decision-making rights;³
4. sole physical custody, where the child lives the majority of the time with one parent but can have visitation with the other; and
5. sole legal custody, where only one parent has decision-making rights and responsibilities regarding the health, education, and welfare of the child.⁴

¹Miss. Code § 93-5-24(5)(c), (1)(b)
²Miss. Code § 93-5-24(5)(e), (1)(c)
³Miss. Code § 93-5-24(1)(a)
⁴Miss. Code § 93-5-24(1)(d)

Some people decide not to get a custody order because they don’t want to get the courts involved. They may have an informal agreement that works well for them or may think going to court will provoke the other parent. However, getting a custody order can give you the legal right to make decisions about your child and the right to have your child live with you.

If you decide not to get a custody order, then you and the other parent likely have equal rights to making decisions and living arrangements. The exception to this is when paternity has not been legally established. To learn about establishing paternity in Mississippi, you can look at the question How is paternity established?

Before filing in court for custody, you may want to consider drawing up an out-of-court agreement with the other parent. Usually parents will have to be flexible when it comes to custody and visitation for the benefit of the child. Often times, parents who fight for sole custody will litigate in court for months or even years and end up with some sort of joint custody agreement after settlement or trial. However, sometimes fighting for sole custody is necessary because you can’t agree with the other parent, the other parent is not allowing contact, or your fear for your child’s well-being. Especially with domestic violence, many abusers will try to keep power and control over the victim-survivor through the child, so joint custody isn’t recommended due to the power difference in the relationship.

If you decide to file in court for custody, although custody laws vary by state, the process usually looks similar to this:

1. File for custody. Depending on the state, you may file in the family court or a court of a different name that hears custody cases. Generally, you will file in the county where the child lives and, depending on the circumstances, you may be able to request an emergency or temporary order as part of your petition. The exact petition you file may depend on whether you are married or not:

• If you are a married parent who is also filing for divorce, you can usually include the custody petition within the divorce process.
• If you are a married parent who is not filing for divorce, you can file for custody on its own.
• If you are an unmarried parent, you can also seek custody in court. However, if paternity hasn’t been established, which means that the father hasn’t been legally recognized, then this process will likely have to happen first or as part of the custody process.

2. Prepare for the custody process

The court custody process is usually very long and can be emotionally and financially draining. If you are representing yourself in court, you can learn about the court process and how to present evidence on our Preparing for Court – By Yourself section. If you are able to hire an attorney, you can use this list of questions as your guide when deciding who to hire.

During the court process, you will try to prove why you should have your child’s custody. When preparing for court, you can gather evidence that helps make your case as to why you should have custody of the child. This process should be directed by the factors the law says a judge should consider when deciding custody. You can see How will a judge make a decision about custody? for more information. It’s important to consider that the judge will be focused on what is in the best interest of your child and many states consider that this is to have a relationship with both parents.

3. Prepare for trial

There will be one or more hearings, including a trial, if the parties cannot reach an agreement by themselves or as part of a mediation process. During trial, you or your attorney will be able to present evidence and to cross-examine the other party to help the judge make a decision.

If you are a victim of domestic violence, you can plan for your safety while in court and you should ask the judge to include some protections in the custody order. For example, you can ask for some of the following terms:

• communications between the parents can only be in writing;
• all communications can only be related to the child; and
• a neutral third party should be present at the exchange of the child or should be the one to drop off and pick up the child.

You should also try to be as specific as possible in terms of the decision-making powers of each parent, who has the child on holidays, birthdays, etc., and the time and place for pick-ups and drop-offs of the child as to avoid future conflicts.

4. Options if you lose the custody case

There could be a couple of options that are filed immediately after the judge makes the custody order:

• A motion for reconsideration asks the judge to decide differently based on the law or new evidence.
• An appeal moves the case to a higher court and asks that court to review the lower court’s decision due a judge’s error.

A petition to change (modify) the order is an option that would not be filed right away. You could ask for a modification if, later on, a substantial change of circumstances happens. A few examples could be if the other parent gets sent to jail, gets charged with child abuse or neglect, or moves to another state.

You can also watch our Custody, Visitation, and Child Support videos where we explain the process. The videos include information about the different types of custody and visitation and related legal concepts that a judge will consider, child support, and moving out of state with your child.

If the judge finds that a parent has a history of committing family violence, there is a “rebuttable presumption” against granting custody. This means that the judge should assume that it is not in the child’s best interest for the abusive parent to have sole or joint legal and physical custody. However, the abusive parent can present evidence to try to change the judge’s mind. The judge may find that there is a history of committing family violence if:

• one incident of family violence has caused you serious bodily injury; or
• there has been a pattern of family violence against you, your family/household member, or the abusive parent’s family/household member.¹

The judge also has to make a written statement explaining how the family violence affected his/her custody decision.¹ In deciding whether to grant custody to a parent who committed violence, the judge will consider whether or not the parent who committed family violence:

• has shown that giving him/her sole or joint physical or legal custody of the child is in the best interest of the child due to the other parent’s absence, mental illness, substance abuse or another situation that affects the best interest of the child;
• has successfully finished a batterer’s treatment program, an alcohol or drug abuse counseling program, or a parenting class if the judge decides any of these programs are appropriate;
• is on probation or parole or has a restraining order issued against him/her and whether or not s/he has complied with its terms and conditions; and
• has committed any other acts of domestic violence.²

A judge may also allow for visitation if s/he believes you and your child can be protected through some restrictions in the order. For a list of a protections you can request in the order, see What protections can the visitation order include for domestic violence victims?

¹ Miss. Code § 93-5-24(9)(a)(i)
² Miss. Code § 93-5-24(9)(a)(iii)

If the judge believes that you and your child can be protected from further abuse with some restrictions during visitation, s/he can include those in the order. These are some of the things that could be ordered to protect you and your child:

• that the exchange of the child takes place in a protected setting;
• that visitation time is supervised and the abuser pays part of the cost associated with them;
• an order for the abuser to complete batterers’ intervention or counseling, as a condition for visitation;
• an order for the abuser to not drink alcohol or take drugs during visitation and 24 hours before visitation is scheduled;
• no overnight visitations;
• an order that the abuser pay a bond for the safe return of your child; or
• any other conditions that the judge believes are necessary to keep you, the child, or any other family or household member safe.¹

¹ Miss. Code § 93-5-24(9)(d)(ii)

Grandparents can petition the court for visitation of your child in the following circumstances:

• custody is awarded to only one of the parents;
• parental rights are terminated for one of the parents;
• one of the parents died; or
• the grandparent has established a relationship with the child and both of the following are true:
  
  • one of the parents or his/her custodian is unreasonably denying visitation; and
  • the judge believes that visitation would be in the best interest of the child.¹

¹ Miss. Code § 93-16-3

To change a custody or visitation order that is already in place, you need to file a petition to change (modify) the order at the courthouse that originally issued it. Generally, for a judge to change your custody or visitation order, you need to show that there has been a significant (substantial) change in circumstances since the final order was made and that your proposed change would be in the best interest of your child.

If a noncustodial parent or another relative takes your child out of state with the intent to violate an existing custody order, s/he might be charged with what’s commonly known as “custodial interference.” This only applies if your child is younger than 14 years of age.¹

If this is true in your situation, you might want to call your local law enforcement authority to report the situation. You can also contact a knowledgeable attorney to find out what may be best in your situation. Please go to our MS Finding a Lawyer page to seek out legal advice.

¹ Miss. Code § 97-3-51

After a final custody order is issued, there may come a time when you and your children move to a different state. For information about how to request to transfer the custody case to a new state, please go to the Transferring a custody case to a different state section in our general Custody page. However, it’s important to keep in mind that you may likely first need to get permission from the court or from the other parent to move your children out of state. Please talk to a lawyer to make sure your plans to move don’t violate your custody order or your state’s parental kidnapping laws.