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EspañolVictim abused by caretaker (not a qualifying relationship for RO)
I am so sorry to hear that your friend is being abused by her caretaker. You may want to start by contacting Adult Protective Services (APS). APS works to protect the health and safety of elders and adults with disabilities who are in danger of being mistreated or neglected, are unable to take care of themselves or protect themselves from harm, and have no one to assist them. In most states, APS workers are the first to respond to any reports of neglect or abuse of vulnerable adults. In many cases, Adult Protective Services may be able to arrange for someone besides the abuser to provide care. You can read more about APS here: [GOOGLE APS IN HER STATE] You can call them and ask generic questions about your situation, without giving identifying information. This might give you a better understanding of your options. If you suspect elder abuse, neglect, or exploitation, the national hotline is
1-800-677-1116
You may also want to contact:
The National Center on Elder Abuse
http://www.ncea.aoa.gov/ncearoot/Main_Site/index.aspx
302-831-3525
Eldercare Locator
www.eldercare.gov
1-800-677-1116
In addition to these referrals, you may want to help her to begin safety planning. Safety planning is thinking of ways to keep yourself as safe as possible. We have some tips to get you started at www.womenslaw.org/safety.htm, but you may also want to speak with an advocate at your local domestic violence organization, who can help her design a personalized plan.
You should also know that domestic violence organizations may also be able to help her. They often offer victims of domestic violence much more than just shelter. Your local program might be able to help you figure out the risk, if any, that your friend faces if s/he chooses to help you escape the abusive caregiver. They may be able to offer counseling, individual safety planning sessions, information on resources specific to your community, and help navigating the legal and social services systems. To find a domestic violence organization in your area, go here: [INSERT STATE AND LOCAL PROGRAMS PAGE]. If you’re located far away from the nearest organization and have access to a safe phone (one that your abuser is not monitoring), they may be able to provide you with some information over the phone that’s helpful to you or even arrange some way for you come in person.
Another option may be to call the police to report the abuse and try to have the caretaker arrested. If he is arrested, she would likely get an order of protection that would keep him away from her.
