Sexual Assault

You mentioned that you would like to share your story of abuse with the media. Telling their story can be an important part of the healing process for many survivors.However, talking with the press, specifically, is not a decision that should be made lightly as there could be long lasting implications, both positive and negative. It is important to understand how the media works and what possible consequences a person may face when a story is published. Generally, a person may have some control over the story in the very early phases. They can decide whether or not to come forward in the first place, if their name should be used, if any photos are taken that could be used, whether or not to name the abuser, etc. A person who is going to tell their story to the media should make sure to find a reporter that they are comfortable with, and develop clear expectations as to what is on the record, what is off the record, what can be used in the story and what cannot be used in the story. If these issues are not discussed then everything is essentially fair game and the reporter can write whatever kind of story s/he wants to.

It is important to keep in mind that, although this is the survivor’s story, the press will be writing a news article that may or may not approach the subject from the survivor’s point of view. A reporter will probably also have to contact the other people involved, and the abuser if the abuser is named, to get their side of the story. Reporters will rarely let the subject review the article before print, and once a story is published, it may live on the internet indefinite. If a survivor decides to use their name, then anytime their name is searched on the internet the story may be one of the results. This is something to keep in mind when deciding whether or not to share your story, and how much detail to share.

Another important consideration is whether or not to share the name of the abuser. There is some benefit in reclaiming some power/control in the situation and in alerting the community that the abuser has done this. However, naming an individual may open up the possibility of a defamation lawsuit. Generally, truth is a defense to defamation, however, the cost of defending a lawsuit can run into the thousands of dollars if a lawyer is hired. A person trying to defend a defamation lawsuit without a lawyer would be at a severe disadvantage. If you would like to talk to a lawyer before making a decision, you can find free and paid lawyers in your area with our Finding a Lawyer page.

If you would like more information, I was also able to find this Survivor Media Guide that walks survivors through the process in much more detail. Please know that WomensLaw is not affiliated with this website and cannot vouch for the information contained in it. We provide it for your information only – you may want to verify the information with a lawyer in your state. It might also be helpful to speak with an advocate in your area. You can use this link to find Local Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault Programs in your area.