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Do I have to change the name of my RO now that I got married?

Although I cannot speak to STATE’s laws in particular, in many states, a petitioner does not have to change the order after a name change as long as s/he is able to prove to the police and the courts that s/he is the person who is protected by the order. For example, if the police come to enforce the order, and the person can show a marriage license that gives the former name as well as some sort of ID with that name (driver’s license, etc.), that can be enough to prove that the person who has called the police is the same person protected in the order. However, in other states, the court may require being notified of any changes that affect the order, such as a name chance, an address change (if the respondent is ordered to stay away from a specific address, etc.) As I said, I don’t know how STATE deals with this situation. You may want to contact the courthouse where you got the order to ask if you need to file anything to get an order with your updated name or not - here is a link with courthouse contact info: LINK You may also be able to get a specific answer/advice from a lawyer who deals with domestic violence orders in STATE - here is a link for lawyers:LINK

In some cases, however, a petitioner may not want the abuser to know s/he got married or may be fearful that if the respondent knows s/he has gotten married, this may endanger the petitioner in some way. If you want to think through whether or not this may affect your safety in your specific situation, here is a link for local domestic violence organizations:LINK

I hope this helps point you in the right direction even though I was not able to give you a specific “yes” or “no” answer.