Male Victims

You said that you are having a problem and that you feel like resources are only available to women. First of all, I want to reassure you that WomensLaw serves and supports all survivors, no matter their sex or gender. Many men also experience domestic violence or sexual assault. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 1 in 4 men will experience some form of physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime. If you are a male victim of domestic violence or sexual assault, you should know that you are not alone. No one should have to be afraid or feel unsafe in their relationship.

This website was created with women in mind because a very large percentage of victims of domestic violence and sexual assault are women. However, we understand that for a male victim, those statistics are irrelevant and the need for assistance and support is just as important. Certain gender stereotypes and social factors can make it difficult for male victims of abuse to come forward. From a young age, men are socialized to avoid appearing “weak,” “afraid,” and “hurt.” The result is that men may find it difficult to express emotions or ask for help. This often acts as a barrier to male victims reporting abuse.

All of the legal information on this website applies equally to all genders. We respond to requests for information and support from male victims just as we do for female victims on this hotline. Many local programs and state coalitions can also help male victims. There are also national organizations that were established to help men.

In addition to the support available through a local domestic violence organization, some survivors find it helpful to participate in an online chat group with other survivors of abuse, which is more anonymous than an in-person support group. You can find out more information about different chat groups and how to join on our Chats and Message Boards page. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is another place where victims/survivors can call 24 hours per day to talk with someone; their number is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). If you think speaking to a professional about your situation might help you manage the trauma you have experienced, the American Psychological Association maintains a directory of therapists across the country that might be a helpful resource.