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About Abuse

Information for Teens and Young Adults

Updated: September 3, 2019

Should I tell an adult? Can't I just handle this on my own?

Talking about problems within your relationship or sharing the fact that someone is abusing you is never easy, especially when you’re talking to an adult. It’s normal to want to solve your problems on your own or with your friends. It’s normal to not want to get anyone “in trouble,” including the person abusing you. If you are the friend of someone being abused, it’s normal not to want to betray your friend’s trust by revealing the abuse to an adult.

Sometimes, however, there are problems that are too big to handle without help, and it can be a big relief to involve a trusted adult. Advocates at Loveisrespect.org can help you figure out when you should talk to an adult, who you should talk to, and what to say.

My boyfriend/girlfriend is writing mean things on social media. What should I do?

Many people have profiles on social media websites, and use social media to stay connected to friends, post pictures, and share information. If you are in an abusive relationship, the abuser may be using your social media pages in harmful ways against you. S/he may be stalking you, using your password to log in as you and post messages, or writing mean or harmful things on your public page. S/he may also be spreading pictures or hurtful comments about you to others by using social media. It may be a good idea to deactivate your account for a while until you feel safe again, but if you plan on staying on social media, go to our Safety with Social Media page for information on what steps you can take.